Question: Can Buddhist practice subdue one’s strong emotions? My friend has been practicing for many years, but still, her emotions remain strong and uncontrollable.
by Khenpo Tashi
Many people think that they are practicing Buddhism. Actually, they are not. One result of practicing Buddhism should be to weaken the grip of our emotions on our mind. If we are practicing Buddhism wrongly, then this result will not happen.
Of course, teacher and following the teacher’s instructions are important. Can we practice Buddhism by reading books only? I’m not sure. Mostly not.
If we are practicing Buddhism correctly, our emotions will gradually weaken. Our self-centeredness will also weaken. It is long-term, but we can see the effects for ourselves. Steady improvement, we become more relaxed, at peace, we will have more freedom.
Weakening the Negative Tendencies
How does Buddhist practice weaken emotions? Through accumulating positive tendencies, and removing negative tendencies. Or we say, accumulating merit and removing Karma.
But, don’t look at others. Look at our own self. How much have we improved? How much did we follow our teacher, and did the practices? How much have our minds become permanently stable, weaker pride, more humble and more trust in the Triple Gems? Don’t look at others, just watch our own situation.
We should never give up practicing. Don’t look at other people (ie other people’s progress)! That is a waste of time and our precious human rebirth.